Even if you and your spouse divorce, if you have kids you will still be partners for a lifetime. Co-parenting is usually in the best interest of the child, which is why it is such a common custody arrangement after divorce.
However, there are many common issues inherent with co-parenting. One involves the hassle of moving children between residences. Some divorced families are experimenting with a “birdnesting” or “nesting” living arrangement to solve these issues. According to Psychology Today, nesting involves a divorced family maintaining a single residence where the children live 100% of the time and the parents rotate in and out.
What are the advantages?
One of the biggest advantages to nesting is that it involves little disruption on the part of the children. Particularly if the single residence the family maintains is the original residence the family lived in prior to the divorce, there may be next to no disruption at all.
A nesting arrangement allows children to stay in the same school district with the same friends in the very same bedroom. Maintaining this level of continuity before and after a divorce is very beneficial for children.
What are the negatives?
Nesting requires efficient communication between the co-parents, even more than a regular co-parenting situation. You will need to manage bills jointly and also decide where each parent will live when he or she is not “on-duty” in the family home.
It is also common for parents to want their own separate permanent living arrangements at some point. For this reason, nesting tends to be temporary to semi temporary. However, depending on the needs of your family you could certainly nest for decades if desired.